Aug 19 2009

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Announcement - Trying The Total Transformation Program!!!!

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I haven’t posted to this site for quiet a long time!  With the birth of my second son, getting laid off from my full time job, and handling the summer home with  my very ADHD 8 yr old son, I am seeing my fair share of happiness and stress!

Since Tyler has recently been diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder and combined with ADHD, I am finding it very hard to get him to do anything that I ask of him, such as chores, without a huge fight. He argues with me like I am another child (and even that is unacceptable to me) and has a tantrum when he doesn’t get his way. I am finding it difficult to discipline him and teach him how to properly relate to other people. He has become rude, angry, argumentative, and very disobedient. It is as if punishment does not matter ,thus it is not working and he continues to misbehave.My husband and I need help with learning new parenting skills to teach Tyler how to speak with other people politely, how to show people respect and not argue, fight, or scream at others, and how to do as he‘s told with minimal disagreements and no arguing and fighting. As a parent, I need to stop the yelling and find more productive ways to parent Tyler.

To eliminate the stress and to help my son gain better problem solving skills and good behavior, my husband and I have decided to try The Total Transformation Program. I researched this program before deciding to try it. In my online searches I found tons and tons of positive comments from parents that followed the program. I only found a couple negative comments. These negative comments were from people that had not tried the system, but were stating that it sounded too good to be true. With all the positive feedback, I decided it was worth a try!

I’d like to share our experiences and progress as we move along in the program, hoping other parents will read my reviews and decide if the program will help them. I have set up a new page on this website, titled Total Transformation - review that will be specifically geared towards our Total Transformation progress reports.

If you would like to try the program - a free trial is available - please click on the link under the search box in the top middle collum of this page! 

If you have any questions about my experiance with The Total Transformation Program, or any other questions regarding this website, please don’t hesitate to contact me via the Contact Page!

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Jul 30 2008

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Snappy Comebacks to ADD Doubters

Filed under Adults with ADHD, General ADHD Information, Parents of ADHD Children

Tired of hearing people say that ADD doesn’t exist—or

that it’s somehow your fault? When self-appointed

“experts” speak their mind, it can be hard to convince

them of the truth: that the debate about the existence

of ADD is over! Mainstream medical, psychological,

and educational organizations long ago concluded

that ADD is real, and that children and adults with the

disorder benefit from treatment. So next time one of

these five types of ADD naysayers speaks his opinion,

use these snappy comebacks to respond.

1THE SKEPTIC denies the very existence of ADD, calling it a

phantom that was cooked up as an excuse for bad parenting.

What about the adults who say they have ADD? “They just need to

grow up and take responsibility for their shortcomings, rather than

blaming an illness.”

Here’s what to do:

Explain that the reason they don’t “believe in” ADD is

because they’ve probably been lucky enough never to

have experienced it.

Use hard facts. The National Institute of Mental Health

counts ADD as a real medical condition; so does the

American Psychological Association, which includes ADD

in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental

Disorders, the bible of mental-health professionals.

Agree to disagree. Say, “We have different opinions on

this issue, so let’s agree to disagree and not discuss it.”

Try sarcasm. “Gosh, it must be nice to be smarter than

thousands of doctors, scientists, and psychologists.”

2THE CRUSADER takes a holier-than-thou approach,

second-guessing adults who take ADD medications and parents

who give them to their kids. “I would never take a stimulant medication

or give one to my child,” she proclaims.

Here’s what to do:

Make it clear that drug therapy for ADD is not a cause for

shame. Medicating your child doesn’t make you a lazy or

incompetent parent. It shows you are an effective parent.

Look her in the eye and ask, “If you had diabetes, would

you not take insulin? Would you deny insulin to a child

who had diabetes? Then why should I withhold appropriate

medication from my child?”

Issue a challenge. Ask, “What do you think is the best

solution?”

3THE JOKER takes potshots at ADD, using sarcasm and pretending

that his barbs are innocuous. A Joker might say, “I wish

I had ADD! At least then I’d have an excuse for my bad behavior.” Or,

“Pass the Ritalin—I could use a (wink, wink) ‘boost.’”

Here’s what to do:

Use selective silence. As soon as you realize someone is

being nasty, follow Ghandi’s example—choose not to

respond.

Be blunt. Look them in the eye and ask, “Are you trying

to help me or hurt me?”

Be direct. “When you say X, I feel Y,” or “Mocking my

medical condition is hurtful, and I’d like you to stop.”

Take it to the next level. If The Joker is in your work

place and the direct approach fails, consider moving up

the chain of command or consulting a lawyer.

Kill them with kindness. Say, “I know you only say that

because you care.”

Give them a taste of their own medicine. Say, “You done

‘spressin’ yourself?”

4THE OSTRICH can’t accept that a person (including himself

or his own child) has ADD—even when shown evidence to the

contrary. Or, in response to news that his child has been diagnosed

with ADD, he might inform the doctor, “There’s nothing wrong with

my kid that an old-fashioned spanking won’t cure.”

Here’s what to do:

Educate. Simply state the facts and move on.

Neither agree or disagree. Just muse aloud, “Hmm. I

suppose that’s possible.”

If you’re married to an Ostrich, say, “This is not about you

or how you feel about ADD. It’s about our child and what

we need to do for her.”

5THE VOICE OF DOOM She sees a bleak future for ADD

kids, ignoring the evidence suggesting that people with ADD

are often energetic, intelligent, and creative.

Here’s what to do:

Be gracious. Remark, “That’s an interesting viewpoint. I’ll

have to give that some thought.”

Try honesty. Say, “That comment really hurt my feelings.”

Turn the tables. “If Richard Branson can found Virgin

Records and Virgin Atlantic Airways, despite having ADD,

I’m not worried about my son,” or “If my daughter turns

out as well as Suzanne Somers or Whoopi Goldberg, who

both have ADD, that’s fine with me!”

 

From: additudemag.com

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May 06 2008

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Recommended Reading for Children

Filed under Parents of ADHD Children

Learning To Slow Down & Pay Attention: A Book for Kids About ADHD (2004)
Kathleen G. Nadeau, Ellen B. Dixon, and Charles Beyl

Jumpin’ Johnny Get Back to Work! A Child’s Guide to ADHD/Hyperactivity (1991)
Michael Gordon

The Survival Guide for Kids with ADD or ADHD (2006)
John F. Taylor

Joey Pigza Loses Control (2005)
Jack Gantos

50 Activities and Games for Kids with ADHD (2000)
Patricia O. Quinn (Editor)

The Girls’ Guide To AD/HD: Don’t Lose This Book! (2004)
Beth Walker

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